The toy is higher, but the happiness brought to the child is less?

Have families with children ever felt this way? ——The toys that I bought for my children are all piled up in the house, but the children don’t seem to like them. I always play one piece and throw one. The money for buying toys has cost thousands or even tens of thousands, but it can't buy the happiness that adults can bring when they have a few rubber bands, a few blocks, and a few pieces of sugar paper. This is how it happened?

"Family" is not as fun as 20 years ago?

Xiao Gao’s children are more than two years old this year. They often take their children to shopping malls, parks, early education centers and other places. These places have children’s play areas, which are arranged in dozens of dozens and hundreds of toys. However, Xiao Gao found that children's interest in these toys is not great. For example, there is a play area in the shopping mall adjacent to it. There are several large toy houses, "kitchen", "gas station", "castle", "small garden"... all use plastic to imitate the real environment. The shape is very realistic; there are several slide swing groups, which are also very elaborate, with special safety slings, comfortable seats, and safety belts, etc.; and the “simulated supermarket” is a small but complete Dozens of vegetables and fruits are vivid, and there are a full set of facilities such as “shelf”, “shopping cart”, “checkout counter” and “calculator”. The children can experience the whole process of supermarket shopping from here. In addition to these, there are a lot of racing cars, electric cars, building blocks, seesaws, etc., and a variety of toys piled up in one room.

However, the child did not see much excitement in the face of these toys. He went into the "kitchen" and touched it a few times. He went out to the "supermarket" and licked a few "fruits", and later threw them away, the little piano. After two rounds, I pushed it aside... His interest in every toy lasted for five minutes.

"It's so weird, so many toys, so delicate and realistic, the children actually don't like to play at all. When we were young, we had a bunch of brick tiles, everyone was having fun." Xiao Gao recalled his childhood toys and games. The most impressive thing is the family, which is the favorite game for children under the age of 10. The tools are all children's own hands to find and make. For example, find a wall root, use a wooden stick and plastic cloth to build a simple tent, even if it is a house; use a few bricks to put a "stove", pick up a few tiles as a plate, rice bowl, a few branches are chopsticks Just picking up a few grasses is a "dish". If you can find fungus and mushrooms, it would be even better... It can be said that there are no toys at all, it is entirely on the spot, and a group of children have a good time.

But now, toy manufacturers have long prepared these things, such as the ready-made "kitchen toy house", oversized, all the real kitchen has all the equipment, a decent stove, microwave oven, Tool sets, ovens, dishwashers, refrigerators, ice makers, coffee pots, hanging cans, fruit and vegetable baskets, etc., there are dozens of small accessories such as spoons and forks, and almost no children need to prepare anything by themselves. You can get started with "cooking" directly. However, such a delicate "kitchen", the child is just beginning to be fresh, and it will be ignored after a few play.

The most "old" of toys

"The toy kids are coming over and touching, and then they don't play." In Hualian Shopping Mall, a game area also has a kitchen toy. The staff told reporters that most of the time, this toy is just furnishings, not much. The child is interested in it. In addition to this, there are many similar big toys in the scenario simulation class. These toys are famous brands and are expensive. One is two or three thousand yuan. If the family buys, the cost is high, and the child does not like to play, it is actually very wasteful.

The staff said that in fact, they were also very puzzled. The large toys that were bought in thousands of dollars were left out, but some cheap toys were most popular among children. For example, the most "old" toy blocks should be considered as the toys that allow children to sit for the longest time. Of course, the current building blocks are very different from the past. In the past, the blocks were all pieces of wood with different shapes. Now, in addition to this common building block, there are various kinds of blocks, such as Lego, Mobi, etc., which have a relatively large name. Hundreds of small particles of different shapes, children can insert a lot of shapes according to their own imagination, parents and staff do not have to guide, they can sit there for more than an hour.

Children love to play toys that are not toys.

When my mother met my colleagues and friends, I always gave the toy with great enthusiasm, because the toys were already full of living room and storage room, and I couldn’t get in without cleaning the house. Those plush toys , whether they are little tigers or bunny rabbits, or pony ducklings, are just two touches when they buy them, and then they are thrown aside; all kinds of sound and light toys can be pressed by pressing the button. Produce a variety of sounds, accompanied by gorgeous light projections, originally thought that the children must like, but usually the adults press the button when they lick the children, they do not play to play; there are a bunch of toy cars , Electric, hand-push, remote-controlled... all piled up on the balcony and fell a layer of soil. These toys, which do not cost less, have not played much of their role. They are now being processed in batches by their mothers and sent everywhere.

“The things children like to play are not toys at all!” said her mother, who later discovered that she often ignored the toys, but she would hold on to other small items in the house. For example, a box of cotton swabs, 呦呦 will pour out a few hundred cotton swabs, and then put them back one by one; there is also a remote control for air conditioning, 呦呦 especially like to grab and fall to the ground until the back cover, battery are When she fell out, she reloaded it, and repeatedly tossed it many times without stopping. In short, what the child likes to explore makes the adult feel quite incomprehensible.

"When I was a child, the conditions were far worse than the present. The children didn't have too many toys, so they had to do their own fun. The most fun things to do were to play the ball, throw the sandbags, jump the rubber bands, make foreign paintings, pick the popsicle sticks, etc. Take the ice cream stick for example. When you are in the summer, you will sip the ice cream sticks. After you smash it into a piece, you will scatter it on the ground and pick it with a stick. You can't touch other popsicle sticks. When I am here, I have to change someone else to pick it..." After more than 20 years, my mother said that her childhood game was still so vivid. At that time, such a rudimentary toy could leave an indelible mark in their childhood. impression. My mother said, probably because these toys and games are too simple, so children need to use their imagination and creativity. In order to play, children have to make their own paintings, cigarette boxes, and sugar paper. This may be The earliest enlightenment of the collection consciousness, the children discover happiness from the process of collection, experience happy friendship and wild fun in exchange and play.

The most interesting toys to stimulate children to explore desire

Today's toys don't know how many times higher than when we were young, but how do children become less and less interested? National counselor and professional psychology education for children, said that the current economic level has improved, and every family has bought a lot of toys for their children, but children often like things that can inspire their imagination and creativity. For example, the above mentioned family, the children enjoy the process of playing the family, they play the role of father, mother, child, teacher, classmates, etc., to prepare props for their role, build a house, set the stove Taiwan, find food, etc., give full play to your initiative, and experience the fun and sense of accomplishment. If the adults turn everything into ready-made, the process of this experience will be greatly reduced.

Yan Yan said that the simpler the toy, the more it can stimulate the child's potential, allowing them to use their imagination, exercise space perception, hand-eye coordination, attention, observation, and small muscle movements. Some novel high-end toys, although with various functions, are not found by children themselves. The child was initially attracted only by the new stimuli external to these novelty toys, and the interaction with the toy may only stay there. When these new stimuli are over, they are not immediately interested. So many parents will find toys that are bought at a big price, and the children play one piece and throw one. Instead, they are simple, low-cost toys, such as building blocks, Rubik's cube, sandbags, paper planes, etc., because they can give full play to the children's initiative, attract them to ponder the law, invent the gameplay, so always let the children love it, play Not tired, some even become classic games that are passed down from generation to generation.

Therefore, Yan Yan suggested that parents may wish to buy more toys that encourage their children to explore their desires and allow them to combine hands. In addition, they should let them touch nature, especially to experience the joy of collective life and games with children.